I wouldn’t give up trying

I have always wanted children and knew that no matter what I wouldn’t give up trying! There is certainly naivety from those that do not understand what is involved in regards to fertility treatment. Of course, this is mainly innocent but people find it so easy to ask ‘so when are you having children?’  The majority of people have no idea how hard the process is, emotionally, physically and not to mention financially. Also, with no financial support from the NHS I am sure there are plenty of us that are now in debt.

I knew my sexuality from a young age and it has been difficult at times, it definitely played on my mind how and when I was going to have children. My wife and I have been together over 9 years now and we now have two amazing children. We have both been through IVF and fortunately have both been able to carry and give birth to our two beautiful children. It has been the hardest process we have ever been through, the time scales, the disappointment but we got there in the end. I pinch myself every day, we are blessed and so lucky to have our miracles.

It can be a daunting and lonely process for so many people and I now feel privileged to be part of the BTW group.

To have this group and share the journey with others who have been through similar and to offer support and/or talk about our experiences is a really positive thing. I think there is a real lack of understanding and I do feel that devising a policy for employers to embed around treatment would be a way forward in supporting those going through fertility treatment, no matter their sexuality.

If you’d like any help or advice from any of our members please do reach out to us, we’d love to be able to offer support. Contact us at: bournethisway.lgbt@gmail.com

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