Self-care – What does it mean? What does it look like? And, more importantly, does anyone actually know how to do it?!
- The practice of taking action to preserve or improve one’s own health.
- The practice of taking an active role in protecting one’s own well-being and happiness, in particular during periods of stress.
It isn’t a new term but it does seem to require a new way of thinking and an acceptance that it’s “okay” to put oneself first. In a world where demands on our mental and physical resources are at an all-time high, self-care has never been so important. Groups who identify as minority such as LBGTQ+ can find life at times even more isolating and will find the need to work on their self-care.
So how do we do it and what are the signs that we need it?
Have you ever reacted – or like me – over-reacted to a situation that in essence seemed minor? Have you felt it building with a racing heart, tension in your head, a heavy feeling in your stomach or have you gone from 0-100?
The aforementioned, physical, visceral responses within our body are often ignored – or over-ruled – by our thoughts in that moment; but they are telling us something:
“I’m being triggered, I’m overwhelmed and I need to take some deep breaths and walk away”
If we can tune in to the physical “warning signals”, it gives us some breathing space -read self-care – and allows us the opportunity to consider our responses, be kinder to ourselves (and in turn those around us!!)
Free & easy self-care for everyone
I don’t propose to have all the answers but below are some free, achievable things that always help me. If you have children at home – whatever the age – these can be hugely beneficial to them too.
- Breathe – obvious I know but when we really listen to our breathing it grounds us and keeps us in the present, helping our anxious mind from running a muck. Teaching our children to tune in to their breathing can offer both them and you some calm. Take 8-10 deep, long, slow breaths inhaling as much as you can and exhaling for as long as you can.
- Get some fresh air – yes even if’s raining! And always look up rather than stare at your own feet – I’ve found there’s always something that you might otherwise miss – a funny shaped cloud, the sun creating ethereal rays, a moody sky…..
If you are at home with young children you can reach out to on-line family support groups – there is some really useful information on the BTW website. This can feel scary but sometimes new friendships are sitting quietly just waiting to happen.
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